Things Moms Aren't Supposed To Say - Baby Steps Ep. 25

28 mrt. 2021
45 487 Weergaven

This week Rachel joins Ariel to talk about the tricky, often challenging, never-ending experience of Motherhood.
In this irreverent weekly parenting podcast, NLworld stars Ned & Ariel Fulmer reveal the dirty, messy truths behind raising a blissfully instagram-ready family. Follow Ariel’s pregnancy journey week-by-week with a dash of not-so-expert advice, trending product reviews, and poop-in-your-big-boy-pants raw sincerity from a couple experiencing the extreme life-upheaval we call “the miracle of life” in real-time.
Ned and Ariel Fulmer are the internet’s mom and dad. Part of The Try Guys collective, they have 7.3 Million subscribers and over 2 Billion life-time views. Ned is a comedian whose first book The Hidden Power Of F*cking Up was a #1 New York Times Bestseller, and Ariel is a successful Los Angeles-based interior designer who weilds a circular saw in one hand and a glass of chardonnay in the other. They have hosted NLworld shows doing celebrity DIY makeovers, home-cooking competitions versus professional chefs, and adorable family vlogs. Pregnant and chasing a toddler during a pandemic, they are embracing the chaos of parenting with their irreverently funny new podcast "Baby Steps."
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  • I'm the 2 thousandth like! But honestly this is such an amazing insight and you two are such amazing people!

    C.A’s Ice teaC.A’s Ice tea7 dagen geleden
  • I've never related to anything more in my life

    Danielle OchoaDanielle Ochoa16 dagen geleden
  • Not even 25 mins in and this spoke to me on such a deep level. I just wanna say thank you

    Breana WilliamsBreana Williams17 dagen geleden
  • yeah the child lying phase doesn’t go away:/ at this point it’s a knee jerk reaction for me for even tiny things

    Ellie MorganEllie Morgan25 dagen geleden
  • This is the most relatable podcast I have ever heard. I think all husbands should listen too. THANK YOU

    TheZannyDTheZannyD26 dagen geleden
  • As someone whose husband responded to her 3 month post partum body by laying into me about how it’s my fault I would love a fake “you’re beautiful” ...

    askmeabouthardcheesesaskmeabouthardcheeses27 dagen geleden
  • 😂😂😂 Poppy's first word! Her soul NEEDED that Muffin 😂💕🍓

    Lourdes PintorLourdes PintorMaand geleden
  • These women are superheroes

    Phia HopePhia HopeMaand geleden
  • This episode was so real & honest! Loved it! On the topic of touched out, I’m not necessarily touched out to the point where I don’t want my husband to touch me but I want him to initiate the touching. For example, I don’t want him to be like “oh you didn’t hug me when I got home from work” or “oh you never kiss me first” I need him to be the one to initiate those things because I’ve already used up all my attention to this little human being who needs me attention ALL day long.

    Stephanie CisselStephanie CisselMaand geleden
  • Hey OB/ Gyn in training here! The belly measurements are legit and widely done. There’s a normal range for different sizes. By 20 weeks the top of your uterus should be around the belly button and then it correlates from there!!

    Sophia DeadySophia DeadyMaand geleden
  • As a plus size women who wasn't expecting to get pregnant, and then had a traumatic experience from beginning to end of the whole pregnancy process ON TOP of chronic pain and neurological disorders that make exercise more difficult it felt so good to hear this podcast. Ive never had that control over my body, but especially now (almost 2 years pp), talking about having another and im already struggling so much with my mental health and feeling worthy as a person, not just a woman. Pretty much in tears this entire podcast

    Ericka Evans-BayerEricka Evans-BayerMaand geleden
  • This was bad for me. I struggled with body image. It was horrible. But I’ve always struggled with that in normal life it was just amplified when i gave birth for the second time in 2 years. I was huge too for a short girl. Still I struggle and I’m now 48 years old. I try to love my body because it was a working body and created two miracles. It’s a work in progress.

    Tracey NailsTracey NailsMaand geleden
  • One alternative to a cold glass of wine is a cold glass of coconut water! If you refrigerate fresh coconut water overnight (not those with added sugar!), believe me, it's so crisply refreshing!

    Chloe BangcoChloe BangcoMaand geleden
  • This is my favorite episode for sure. I would love to see more discussions between Ariel and Rachel. Can we hear Rachel’s birth story?

    Laura ScottLaura ScottMaand geleden
  • I love how articulate Rachel is. Not many people can successfully turn their difficult experiences into understandable words, but she does it beautifully. Ariel seemed grateful to finally hear someone utter words that express what she feels. Really lovely to watch.

    Sofia OliveiraSofia OliveiraMaand geleden
  • I will watch a movie in the shower!

    jazmine cobbjazmine cobbMaand geleden
  • I'm 3 weeks pp and you have no idea how much I needed this videos ! Thank you from the bottom of my heart !!

    StarOfMyCityStarOfMyCityMaand geleden
  • Excellent conversation today, Rachel and Ariel.

    rooeykaterooeykateMaand geleden
  • Was is going to be a lawyer or a politician XD

    EmmaEmmaMaand geleden
  • Ariel, your cheekbones are popping!

    EmmaEmmaMaand geleden
  • I love RACHEL such a great perspective... love love love

    Doris J FDoris J FMaand geleden
  • This was so raw and real. So eye-opening. Thank you for opening up about these incredibly personal and vulnerable topics. It's so powerful to put it out there and talk about these feelings that we usually shame ourselves for.

    simonsaysismsimonsaysismMaand geleden
  • Have you considered getting Seirra Schultzzie on the podcast

    SunBlade6963SunBlade6963Maand geleden
  • So about the peeing when you sneeze thing, if you’re experiencing this and it’s really bad or it really annoys you, you should see if you can get in contact with a pelvic floor pt and they should be able to help you!

    Ainsley JacksonAinsley JacksonMaand geleden
  • Thank you for everything you talked about in this episode. I'm 2 weeks postpartum and had a rough labour and 1st week of recovery so this puts my mind at ease.

    DanicaDanicaMaand geleden
  • Listening to this in the mad rush of dinner prep and crying my eyes out. My kids are 7 and (almost) 5, and I honestly still feel this way. Everyone keeps asking me if I'm sad that my youngest will be in kindergarten next year, and it's honestly relieving. To not be needed and touched for an entire 7 hours feels luxurious.

    Hilary SmithHilary SmithMaand geleden
  • My son sat far up and so far into me that I never looked pregnant. It sucked so bad because I had the same feeling of just thinking that I looked fat. It was especially worse because my boss at the time was also pregnant and she got so big so quickly. And I so badly wanted people to oh and ah at me like they did her😭

    Andrea MorganAndrea MorganMaand geleden
  • When I ask my son to do something like take his dishes to the kitchen or put his laundry in the hamper, he used to tell me “mom, your job is not my problem.” 🤭 He also doesn’t show much appreciation or excitement for Santa or Easter baskets or egg hunts. It’s so hard to not look at him and go “Stop being an asshole!” But you can’t say that as a mom lol.

    Andrea MorganAndrea MorganMaand geleden
    • He learned the response from Shrek, and he doesn’t do it anymore. And he’s five and special needs, so it’s not that he’s unappreciative. He just doesn’t get hyped up in Santa and Easter like most kids.

      Andrea MorganAndrea MorganMaand geleden
    • Woah, I’m so sorry your son has seen behaviours which make him think that is acceptable. I urge you to read up on how to steer this away from him truly being an asshole.

      rooeykaterooeykateMaand geleden
  • I can’t believe Wes calls “clocks” time machines! That is the most adorable thing, and I really wish that’s what clocks are actually called. It’s technically what a clock is, and it just sounds cooler! Rachel and Ariel, as frustrating as it can be, June, Poppy, and Wes are getting to to that fun age where they’re REALLY developing personalities, attitudes, and really being expressive. The things toddlers do and think of are so imaginative, and no adult would think of half the ideas a toddler or younger child can come up with. It’s a tough age, but it’s starting to get fun. Keep rocking the mom game. The two of you are crushing it.

    Haley ElstonHaley ElstonMaand geleden
  • I wish I were there with y'all during this conversation. I have so much input! As a mother of two boys, I see my "first trimester" belly and stretch marks and remember the pregnancies that caused them and they remind me that I am "beautiful, powerful, empowering". That is not towards your bodies that is mine.

    Julianie Spookie McCrayJulianie Spookie McCrayMaand geleden
  • We need an updated intro with Finn included.:)

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  • I’m 27 and have always thought that I wanted to have children, but the older I get and the closer I get to having kids, the more doubts I’m having. I talk to coworkers with children regularly about their struggles and it’s petrifying. I can’t imagine giving up my bodily autonomy or all of myself and all of my time, energy, and spirit. Everyone reassures me that it’s all worth it in the end, but these stories scare me and make me feel like I would resent my child(ren) and/or my husband and I wouldn’t be as close. Is it normal to feel this way? Or, should I really consider not having kids?

    Fat Babe ASMRFat Babe ASMRMaand geleden
    • I think it's completely normal to feel that way. I mean kids are a HUGE literally life-changing responsibility. And that decision shouldn't be made lightly. And when it comes down to it, it should be YOUR decision. Don't let people pressure you one way or the other.

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  • I understand the post pregnant body, but when you look like you had a kid when you never been pregnant! That's a different story!!! Sadly!!

  • Currently watching this podcast with my phone in a sandwich bag in the shower 🤣 5 kids

    Misty RyvlinMisty RyvlinMaand geleden
  • great episode!

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  • This autoplayed as I was getting myself (2 weeks partpartum) and my three kids dressed for Easter Church with my husband at work. The youtube algorithm knew exactly what I needed to hear today.

    Sara GruberSara GruberMaand geleden
  • Two moms just being honest about motherhood. That's refreshing! I loved it! Rachel is becoming my fave person to hear

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  • I hope Colleen Ballinger can be on this podcast!

    Kristina DoverKristina DoverMaand geleden
  • talk about kids who have body issues like it happens out of no where. my niece, she a little bit chubby, and my sister(her mom) is always putting her in crop tops and telling her that she loves her belly and that it’s beautiful but this year my niece is even more self conscious and she has to repeat the cycle of learning to love herself again.

    strawberry plutostrawberry plutoMaand geleden
  • I just want to say this episode hit home SO many times! I have 2 boys, 19 months apart, now 2 and 4 years old. My birth experiences were something! With my oldest I was in labor for 23 hrs, went through 2 hours of "practice pushing" then had a c-section because all of a sudden I was just "just too small to have a baby naturally". Epidural wore off while I was on the operation table and I could feel everything, they had to knock me out completely (thus having to also kick my husband out of the room). With baby #2, I was in labor for about 3 hrs. Only 15 minutes of pushing. He came naturally! Not even an Epidural. We had a c-section planned for the next day but he obviously had other plans! Switching gears, I'm so happy y'all talked about the phase of just not wanting to be touched and how your physical relationship definitely changes. It's hard to explain that you love them dearly but I just don't want that right now. Thank you for touching on the topic lol Love these podcasts and greatly appreciate the reminder that I'm not alone with certain feelings that motherhood can bring on!

    Bailey McAbeeBailey McAbeeMaand geleden
  • the sexpart is so interesting because I really feel like that puts a huuuuge pressure on the women and if the partner is not cool that is such a terrible thing to do to them. And it's terrible that is comes from the medical body with this huge autority! Thanks so much for talking about that!

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  • I lost all my weight after having my son but I gained it back and more from just being so exh and eating whatever I could. Lots of coffee, and sugar to stay awake. Not much sleep. Stress of being a single parent (my son's father hasn't even met him). So I feel you with the after baby weight. Quarantine hasn't helped either.

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  • this is such an important video! Thanks so much to you two for your vulnerabilty and for sharing this

    go awaygo awayMaand geleden
  • Lesson, don't comment on people's looks and bodies.

    Migue LopezMigue LopezMaand geleden
  • I’ve legit done the same thing as Rachel where I convinced myself/wished I was pregnant again to explain my permanent tummy pouch

    madisonflowerchildmadisonflowerchildMaand geleden
  • I love listening to these two- they’re both such great conversationalists!

    Gianna NoelleGianna NoelleMaand geleden
  • Having my daughter, and seeing her look just like me, made me feel beautiful. I could never feel ugly when I look like the most beautiful little girl in the world. Motherhood changed my perception of beauty

    ycam1127ycam1127Maand geleden
  • Would love to see more conversations between Ariel and Rachel! Love this.

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  • Rachel talking about having a day to be unaccounted for resonated hard with me. I'm very introverted and with work, family, and my extroverted friends always keeping tabs on me I get flustered. And often think about disappearing for like a year! Cuz sometimes a day to myself isn't enough. 😣

    Boef MolinaBoef MolinaMaand geleden
  • RACHEL NEEDS TO BE ON FULL TIME! She is amazing!!

    Rachel SmithRachel SmithMaand geleden
  • Love how real you guys are. This podcast is so great for moms!

    Rachel SmithRachel SmithMaand geleden
  • Yaknow what I really just want to sit and have these two talk to me about anything they make me feel so comforted and HEARD and im not even speaking I love them !

    Kaycee StangerKaycee StangerMaand geleden
  • I would love to hear another episode like this(with Ariel and Rachel :) ) but talking more about raising children. Like dealing with young boys and girls and the differences in raising different genders. And also maybe their opinions about raising growing people - like how they want to adapt to different phases in childhood and teenage years

    Pavana AtawalePavana AtawaleMaand geleden
  • The comraderie and caring between these two ladies is so wonderful. I wish I would have heard this after my son (now 18) was born. Yes, being "touched out" is a thing!!

    Leanna DawnLeanna DawnMaand geleden
  • They should update the intro with baby Finn!

    Jackie ZamudioJackie ZamudioMaand geleden
  • You guys should definitely go on girls trip

    Saachi TomarSaachi TomarMaand geleden
  • Ariel you are not your body. 💙

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  • Why can I not find science daddy?

    BeedlejuiceBeedlejuiceMaand geleden
  • Hearing you two talk about not having time or the energy for touch from your husbands is so relatable. My husband and I have a 5 week old son and I feel so bad about touching being the last thing I want right now. My husband works night shift and got used to me laying down and snuggling him after he got home(actual snuggles, no strings attached) before and while I was pregnant. Now that baby is here it has just completely stopped. When our son is sleeping I feel like I can either pump, feed myself, take care of our dogs, or make a sad attempt at doing housework. Poor man just wants a bit of attention, but right now he is so low on the totem pole. It also doesn't help that my maternity leave just ended. So work is added into all of that

    Cheshires SecretCheshires SecretMaand geleden
  • Omg pretty much every topic they covered was so relatable! They’re just talking the straight truth! I definitely relate to being touched out after caring for baby. I actually swatted my partner’s hand away once lol. It resonated with me how they mentioned about 6 weeks is not enough to be ready for sex for a lot of women. It really isn’t, and it’s sad that readiness is measured on “just barely physically healed.” You wouldn’t pressure someone who broke their ankle to run after just having a cast off, why do we expect women to bounce back from a major experience in only that time? The mental component is totally legit marker of readiness.

    Marie ChalykoffMarie ChalykoffMaand geleden
  • I feel like we need to normalize talking about how awful being pregnant is for some women. I'm currently 36 weeks pregnant and I have been absolutely miserable since day 1. I was violently ill daily until at least 18 weeks (and still some days even now) and I have been in so much discomfort and pain (the hip pain is excruciating). Don't get me wrong, I love my baby and I'm so excited to be his mom but being pregnant sucks.i am actually terrified of getting pregnant again because I cannot process going through this again. I cannot wait to have my body back.

    Sarah NinkSarah NinkMaand geleden
  • How is it possible for people to talk about just themselves THIS much? 😂

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  • This was needed for my soul as a new mom❤️

    Alex SanderfootAlex SanderfootMaand geleden
  • When he gets a bit older we NEED another Eugene babysits!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • I am so glad you are talking about this because certainly appearance plays into my decision to have kids or not. I know women who chose not to have kids and then continued to be in shape. I definitely think about what my body will look like and weigh that option even tho I would love children. And you know what, yes it sounds selfish but it's something my partner wouldn't have to deal with as a father. He has kids and his body doesn't change.

    Alfredo PastaAlfredo PastaMaand geleden
  • Being touched-out is a REAL PROBLEM with moms. I don't think dads really understand that. Running around with a toddler who demands all your attention, the last thing you want is someone to touch you when you are D-O-N-E for the day.

    Daphne ReynoldsDaphne ReynoldsMaand geleden
  • My weight gain happened after I stopped breastfeeding. It was absolutely impossible to lose weight. My medical conditions flared up and have been out of control ever since. At this point I view my body as a machine to keep myself from hating it. Body neutrality is my new favorite thing.

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  • Would love to see more diversity in the podcast!

    mabel kewkmabel kewkMaand geleden
  • Pelvic floor appt and exercises can help the pee sotuation

    Robin RelosaRobin RelosaMaand geleden
  • I love listening to a podcast while I cook dinner and consume an alcoholic beverage. But yes, I have to hit pause a hundred times.

    Carmela KendallCarmela KendallMaand geleden
  • Rachel's near breakdown about her hair and the comments hits so close to home. I have always hated my hair, but when I was pregnant it looked amazing. Then it became worse than it was pre-pregnancy and it sucks. I always feel self-conscious about it, especially as I'm having job interviews. With video conferences, all they see is your head so I'm almost constantly brushing it until the video conference starts. Postpartum is not just for our bellies!

    Siobhàn Anderson-JudkinsSiobhàn Anderson-JudkinsMaand geleden
  • wait so people don't bring their phones in the shower with them?

    Hannah FreadHannah FreadMaand geleden
  • In Australia we call 'Geriatric Pregnancies' AMA which stands for Advanced Maternal Age, it means the same thing but Geriatric Pregnancy sounds so awful to me in comparison.

    Tenielle ClinchTenielle ClinchMaand geleden
  • I would absolutely love to hear Ned's take on everything you talked about today

    kittynekocatkittynekocatMaand geleden
  • OMG i am going to cry right now! i am a new mom to a beautiful boy and so relate to all of this! i have no time for me at all even though i am not working right now! Newborn is vey demanding! watching this while pumping,... mom life

    Zoe BatmunkhZoe BatmunkhMaand geleden
  • This was absolutely the best episode. Thank you so much for being so honest and vulnerable in this conversation ♡

    kittynekocatkittynekocatMaand geleden
  • This was such an honest discussion, I'm happy you both have each other to vent and understand each other's experiences. Thank you for letting us be a part of this vulnerability 💜 you are both wonder women! Mothers are all wonder women!

    Anh UongAnh UongMaand geleden
  • I imagine Miles at his desk just like 😳😳😳😳

    Cutiepenguin42Cutiepenguin42Maand geleden
  • Put your phone in a ziploc bag when you take it in the shower! Stays dry and the touch screen still responds. I like to listen to music while I'm in there lol

    Emily CEmily CMaand geleden
  • Rachel you are my soul sister 💕put your phone in a sandwich bag for the shower lol.

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  • "I gained 25 pounds with Wes." God bless. I wish. I'm 37 weeks with my first (and only) baby, and I'm just about at 40 pounds.

    The PresenceThe PresenceMaand geleden
    • i gained nearly 50lbs with my first. i think it’s more common to gain more weight than not, don’t beat yourself up about it. 🖤

      Sam BryantSam BryantMaand geleden
  • This was by far the most relatable episode yet. I was teary eyed the whole time, and I kept poking my partner to indicate that it was an important part. So so good. Thank you for saying it out loud ladies!

    Camille BaillargeonCamille BaillargeonMaand geleden
  • Thank you so much for sharing! Mom of two and I think all of things all the time! This podcast was listened to in the kitchen while my kids played paused multiple times but gave me life!!! You brought me so much joy in my tiny bit of free time

    Caroline EldridgeCaroline EldridgeMaand geleden
  • Is it crazy to say I feel the EXACT same way as Rachel... I've never been pregnant full term and are actively trying to get pregnant, but I've definitely gained lots of weight! And look at myself hoping this weight gain is just a pregnancy to justify my belly and weight gain... blahh

    Vivids26Vivids26Maand geleden
  • Im 27 with 4 kids. Had my first at 20, gained 50lbs, lost 25 of that got pregnant #2 (had at 21) gained 50 lbs, lost 25-30, 2 years later #3(had at 23) gained 10lbs, lost 50+, #4 (had at 25) haven't been able to lose much no matter what I do. This is all on top of dealing with mental health issues, had postpartum depression and so much more. This episode really helped me.

    Shayy The LouisanimalShayy The LouisanimalMaand geleden
  • Rachel, I also take my phone into the shower 😂 because nothing else is sacred! I also have no bathroom privacy with toilet training kiddos, and I have set it up that way... But every mumma needs something!!

    Ashley NyssenAshley NyssenMaand geleden
  • The first postpartum sex is weird with a cesarean too. I was worried my whole abdomen was just going to rip open again.

    pythonkatie Kpythonkatie KMaand geleden
  • Ariel's comment about your body not being your own, really hit home. Hard.

    thepuppydog26thepuppydog26Maand geleden
  • You can feel all these things and still be a good mom!!!

    Mallory HuntMallory HuntMaand geleden
  • Btw your description says "follow Ariel's pregnancy"❤️❤️

    SarahSarahMaand geleden
  • Hot coffee mom must-have is the Ember coffee cup!! Thoroughly recommend!

    Erin RoszczykErin RoszczykMaand geleden
  • Is it bad that I didn’t miss Ned? I could listen to these amazingly real honest women talk all day!!!!

    arthistoryalli2arthistoryalli2Maand geleden
  • Oh man...thanks for the additional reminder why I don't have kids.

    Rebecca MundschenkRebecca MundschenkMaand geleden
  • I only birthed one baby (I also have 3 older step sons). I expected to bounce back like other people after their first baby....and my stomach did not go back. I was smaller and only gained weight in my stomach. I still have ALL the skin. And since being pregnant I GAINED weight and all that skin just filled up with fat.

    Stina StricklandStina StricklandMaand geleden
  • Control is important to me as well . I have twins who are 6 (girls) & I have a 1 year old son who’s breastfeeding still and I agree I feel like my body isn’t mine and it has been extremely difficult to be feeling like my self as well. I was on bed rest for 3 months for the twin pregnancy I had . I had the last baby of mine about 2 months before the pandemic so I haven’t been able to do anything . I’m from New York . Thank you for sharing your experience s ladies , it has made me feel a lot less alone in my experience. It has been extremely hard for me .

    Margarita LeonMargarita LeonMaand geleden
  • I am 4 weeks postpartum and I feel this way already!

    Chiavan WhiteChiavan WhiteMaand geleden
  • I’d love to hear Rachel’s pregnancy and birth story

    Tyger verbeckTyger verbeckMaand geleden
  • I have always been overweight and very concerned with weight, working out and diet. My husband and I want to start having kids but the idea of having even more weight to lose is horrifying. It's one of my biggest pregnancy fears!

    Kelsey CoxKelsey CoxMaand geleden
  • I would watch this every week.

    Ysabel GYsabel GMaand geleden
  • POV: watching this podcast while my toddler watches a movie on Netflix in the same room, because me-time 👍

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